Free Food?!?
Early July marks the beginning of a week-long party here in town known as the Calgary Stampede. For many it's a one big excuse to consume obscene amounts of alcohol to the point where liver damage is imminent in a masochistic sort of way. For others, it's a chance to walk around the Stampede grounds and catch the chuckwagons and the rodeo. And then there's people like me who take advantage of all the free breakfasts and lunches held all over the city in the name of the Stampede.
I will almost never pass up the opportunity to consume free food. It probably has to do with the fact that I'm a male, Chinese and a student (which means that I'm always hungry, extremely cheap and don't have much money even if I wasn't so cheap). In fact, some of my Chinese friends have planned out their entire week of free pancakes and mystery meat. The one this morning at the church right across the street from my house was excellent. 3 pancakes with blueberries, strawberry topping and whipped cream, 2 sausage patties and 2 pieces of Canadian back bacon. Not a bad reason to wake up at 8:30am after you've slept for only 4 hours.
mmm...free breakfast
Last night was another night filled with discussion on marriage and friendships. I don't know why but it seems that everyone is having wedding fever. Some of the girls talked about how they have their perfect wedding planned out down to the floral arrangements. Some of the guys talked about how they're still looking for "the one" - if she indeed exists. One notable topic of discussion was on the ladder theory of how men and women relate to the opposite sex. Basically, women have two ladders and men have one when it comes to relationships with opposite sex. Women have one reserved for "just friends" and another one that we can call the "good ladder". The only way you will have a future beyond friends with the girl is if you find yourself climbing up "good ladder". Conversely, men have just one ladder that they put all of their female companions on. For us men, the bottom section of the ladder is "just friends" and as you climb higher up, you begin to encounter an emotional grey area where friendship and more intimate feelings collide. In the top part you have girls who you possibly want to date/marry and interact with in a "more than just friends" manner.
This sort of explains why it's so hard to attain a certain level of friendship with a girl without it becoming awkward. We are incapable of separating females into categories of friends and possibly more than friends unless there are already clear barriers in place...ie. she has a boyfriend or is married...but even that doesn't stop some people.
I will almost never pass up the opportunity to consume free food. It probably has to do with the fact that I'm a male, Chinese and a student (which means that I'm always hungry, extremely cheap and don't have much money even if I wasn't so cheap). In fact, some of my Chinese friends have planned out their entire week of free pancakes and mystery meat. The one this morning at the church right across the street from my house was excellent. 3 pancakes with blueberries, strawberry topping and whipped cream, 2 sausage patties and 2 pieces of Canadian back bacon. Not a bad reason to wake up at 8:30am after you've slept for only 4 hours.
mmm...free breakfast
Last night was another night filled with discussion on marriage and friendships. I don't know why but it seems that everyone is having wedding fever. Some of the girls talked about how they have their perfect wedding planned out down to the floral arrangements. Some of the guys talked about how they're still looking for "the one" - if she indeed exists. One notable topic of discussion was on the ladder theory of how men and women relate to the opposite sex. Basically, women have two ladders and men have one when it comes to relationships with opposite sex. Women have one reserved for "just friends" and another one that we can call the "good ladder". The only way you will have a future beyond friends with the girl is if you find yourself climbing up "good ladder". Conversely, men have just one ladder that they put all of their female companions on. For us men, the bottom section of the ladder is "just friends" and as you climb higher up, you begin to encounter an emotional grey area where friendship and more intimate feelings collide. In the top part you have girls who you possibly want to date/marry and interact with in a "more than just friends" manner.
This sort of explains why it's so hard to attain a certain level of friendship with a girl without it becoming awkward. We are incapable of separating females into categories of friends and possibly more than friends unless there are already clear barriers in place...ie. she has a boyfriend or is married...but even that doesn't stop some people.
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